(continued from last time...the gripping conclusion!)
One of the hardest days I can recall in recent memory was telling my fantastic boss that I was leaving. I couldn't even fathom what to say. She had taken a chance on me in a time when I really needed it and I didn't want to diminish how grateful I felt toward her. She was an awesome boss, trusting and full of guidance.
My husband couldn't "talk about it" any longer. I'd want to rehash some portion of my pro/con list until he finally sighed "Make a decision already!" So I did. I explained to my boss what I had planned, what I was going to do, and that I would stay on as long as she needed me, to train in my replacement, whatever she wanted.
As it turned out, the department heads decided not to replace me and to merge my job duties across the department. I was devastated. I didn't wanted to make more work for my team! I literally hurt when I found out that after I left, no one would be in my office and no one would take the torch from me.
But the decision had been made. I needed to move forward! I worked for about four more weeks and left the same way I arrived: low key and as little fanfare as possible (I declined a going away party). And then I made the transition to my home office. Which was really a desk in the corner of our den.
My new home. Hopefully for the foreseeable future.
Let me tell you, being your own boss is hard, frustrating, rewarding, exciting, and requires immense amounts of willpower and confidence. And that's on a good day! But I didn't know any of this. In fact, as the first week went by, I started to realize the bitter truth:
I KNOW NOTHING, JON SNOW.
My first year was full of ups and downs. I tried to be a planning, meticulous fool. I was busy but it was doing things like organizing, researching, planning, straightening up my desk, printing adorable checklists, updating my Facebook posts. IT WASN'T INCOME PRODUCING ACTIVITIES. I didn't even know what that WAS, for crying out loud! I was punting everyday, hoping that my busyness would somehow translate into income.
Then came the marriage stress. My husband seemed to be getting frustrated because the house wasn't any cleaner even though I was home more and honestly, what was I doing all day? I couldn't answer him sometimes. The time just went by so fast! Then I started to resent him for questioning me as I was getting my feet wet. I tried to explain everything, but all he saw was less income and a messy house. Trying to think with my "guy brain", I can kind of understand what he was thinking, but then my "girl brain" jumps in and is all, "Why isn't he more supportive??!"
*sigh* The dreaded inner dialogue.
But things got better. My hubby and I communicate more. I'm WAY happier with less stress so I'm easier to be around. I'm starting to realize that my boss (me) isn't so bad. We're over a year into this journey and I feel like I have a better handle on things. I feel like I have figured out my path.
I've also come to realize that:
Today I feel like I'm getting a better handle on things. There's still so much I have yet to learn (are landing pages important? What's SEO? Should I create an online classes? Why does my graphic look like a cat just threw up?) and everyday is a new adventure. I'm getting better at asking for help and admitting I don't know it all. It's a struggle and a triumph in very close proximity to each other.
Would I change it? No. My journey is my journey and I hope to share my experiences with my kids when they decide to become little entrepreneurs. Are there days where I feel misunderstood and underappreciated? You bet. But you find that inner source of willpower, strength, and kick-assery and do your best to stay positive no matter what.
Because the bottom line is that not everyone is going to support your dreams. Does it mean those people don't matter? No. It means you have to protect your goals, plans, ideas, and creative content like they're your cubs and you're a scary, protective, pissed off mama bear.
Because honestly, some days you are.
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When I graduated high school, I was one of nine people in my class. For reals. Six guys, three girls. If I'm not mistaken, I traveled the furthest for college: five hours away.
My alma mater was a wonderful institution and I learned a lot about myself after I arrived. Heck, I met my husband there! I have shining memories of my four years and the friends I made are still friends today. So now, after being laid off, I figured why not work there? I mean, it's got great reputation, I have experience, and people work their whole careers there. I could be one of those people!
So I applied. And applied. And kept applying.
"No thank you."
"The position has been filled."
"We went with our first choice, but you were second!"
So frustrating. The clock was ticking on my unemployment and as much as I was grateful for my cleaning job, I didn't want to do it forever.
Then, on the day my unemployment/severance was to run out, I got a call from a nice woman named Karen at the college. She invited me in for an interview and I was so extremely happy when I was offered the job. The pay was much, much less than I had made at my previous position but it was flexible hours, Karen seemed fantastic, and it was an actual job!
When I started the position the following week, I went into it with the mindset that I would keep to myself. After all, after eight years at my previous position, I had made so many relationships but in the end, it hadn't helped at all. So THIS time, I would keep to myself, be silent, don't strike up conversations, be shy, just do my work and go home. Silent but steadfast.
And . . . it was difficult.
When you start a new position, you're an enigma. A question mark wrapped in a riddle. People want to know more: kids? Single/married? Place of residence? Hobbies? Goals? As I answered these questions and immersed myself into the culture, I found myself slowly growing closer to our department in general, more specifically my boss and immediate office mates. They were just good people! I couldn't help but enjoy them!
After three years in this wonderful position, I made several close contacts and several more acquaintances. I enjoyed what I did. I believed in the school's mission and vision. Plus there was room for advancement.
But something else kept nagging at my mind.
What if I could work from home?
I had been slowly growing my business over the past couple of years and it was doing well. But honestly. Work from home and have that be my ONLY job?
"No, that's crazy talk!" I kept telling myself. "Your family will think you're crazy. No one will understand. You won't make money. What if you fail? Your job right now is steady and dependable, like you are."
I was dependable. And I WAS making money. Yep, slowly but surely, my income was increasing with my "side hustle". Was it possible to do it full time?
My husband and I hemmed and hawed over this decision for months. LITERALLY MONTHS. We had a pro and con list a mile long. We crunched financials. I cried a few times. I didn't want to leave what I had built at my alma mater, but I also didn't want to lose the opportunity to make my hobby into a business. It just felt like it was the right time.
Next week: The gripping conclusion!
Back when I was at a job I didn't really like, I had a blog called "Lunchtime Enlightenment". It didn't win any awards but was a helpful tool for me to process my energy and emotions. Basically, I would leave for my mandatory lunch break and then blog about what I did when I got back to the office. Sometimes I wrote about the meal I had, what I saw, what I did. My words were short and sweet . . . and sassy.
Honestly, I had completely forgotten about the blog until my Facebook memories reminded me and even provided a link! (Gotta love that tool.) I immersed myself in the words from five years ago, remembering how I felt while I was writing the entries.
It was awful.
I was miserable, sad, frustrated, powerless, and maybe more than a little disrespectful to my employer. As I read, I got that familiar feeling in the pit of my stomach. The icky feeling that followed me around while all my years at the job.
To be fair, the first few years I started in that position, I loved it. My boss, management, coworkers were all beyond wonderful. We laughed a lot, got things DONE, shared many a potluck and were basically an unstoppable team. But then, positions changed, corporate structure changed, people left, and I stayed. For five more years. Those five years were some of the darkest and most depressing of my career. Sure, I was being paid well, but at what cost?
One day, after several rounds of layoffs, I was laid off with another guy from my department. I thought he was going to come across the table at our director. Me? I felt anger that I was, once again, helpless to do anything about my situation, mixed with relief and a dab of bittersweet. They took my decision away but they forced me to take the leap that I probably never would've taken. But now I didn't have a choice.
After eight years at this job, they still had to watch me pack up my things and wouldn't allow me to go back on my computer to make sure nothing personal remained. People walked by and stared in shock. My face was hot with shame and frustration. The walk out to my car was . . . surreal. I still remember calling my husband, terrified of where our finances would take us now. His response: Relief. Support. Love. I cried at his response, not at my circumstances.
Yet, God always has a plan. I got a week of severance for each year I had been there: 8 weeks. I had to apply for unemployment. I'd never done that before! My friend who owned a cleaning company found work for me while I got my head together. I was modestly cleaning toilets and floors, but I didn't mind. I liked the silence. I thought a lot. What was I supposed to do? Where do I go from here? Why did this happen?
Stay tuned for more next week . . .
Maybe it's not easy for KERMIT to be green, but it can be easy for YOU to be green!
A few years ago, I had a lot bubbles in my kitchen sink. I had a blue dish soap that I loved and it made A LOT of bubbles. "Bubble-topia" my son called it. My soap worked well, and as an added bonus, it brought back childhood memories of being in the kitchen because it's what my mom used.
Fast forward to today. I feel like I'm a bit wiser now.
There are some ingredients in my former fave that aren't all that great, but I never stopped to question it! I mean, our family had been using it for years, right? So when I started researching and reading, I didn't like what I found - my dish soap, my bubble bath, my cleaner, they all had some weird and potentially harmful chemicals.
THEN I found that yes, there are other options that have less chemicals, are friendlier to the environment, and will support the health of my family. Why not just use those? #ShiftMyBrain
Those air fresheners? Laundry soap? Makeup? Do a little research and see what's in them. Try here or here. You'll be surprised at what you find!
Don't get overwhelmed. Heck, it's taken me YEARS to research and eventually replace everything in my home that had room for improvement. But you can start somewhere. You deserve it and so does your family.
My family can breathe easier knowing that we're making a difference - and you can too!
This morning I had the opportunity to try something called Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT). It's a series of visualizations, emotional work, essential oils, and releasing memories that aren't bringing you the most good. (Click here for more information about AFT.)
My reasons for doing an AFT were two-fold. One, I was helping out a friend who is going to be certified soon and needed to record a session. Two, I wanted to see if it could help me forget a particularly painful memory I think of almost daily. It happened when I was in middle school but it's still as fresh as the day it happened.
I had to dig up a few additional old memories that had been stuck with me since middle school in order to process this one particular one. Frustration, anger, hopelessness, I ran the gamut of emotions in this half hour. So going through the process wasn't what I would call "FUN" but over the next three days I'm instructed to carry on with journaling, prayer, and a few other action items. I'm also asked to say a mantra: "I can find closure on my painful memory."
Mantra, affirmations, positive speak, it all means speaking in a manner which is loving and careful. Saying these phrases means programming your brain to believe them. It's these phrases that can pull you out of a funk, solidify your belief, strengthen your resolve, and boost your confidence. And hopefully the phrase can also help me release the memory that follows me around daily. I'm excited to see what happens!
Comment below, what are some of your daily affirmations and mantras?
When you "affirm" something, you're basically saying IT'S TRUE. Simple right?
What happens when you say something preposterous, like "I will grow a third foot" or "My hair turns into gold when it's cut" or "I made this cheesecake from scratch"? If your brain rejects it as true (because honestly, who can make a delicious cheesecake from scratch?) that just means it's not there yet. Click here to read more about RAS (Reticular Activating System). In a nutshell, you see more of what you focus on. Like attracts like. Goals and dreams are accomplished.
Life is good.
It's hard believe our time reviewing emotions and essential oils is done. I hope you enjoyed learning more about how each scent can affect your many thoughts and feelings! If you need a refresher, scroll down through the blog entries.
So what's next?
Let's talk. About talking. To ourselves.
That's right, talking to yourself isn't crazy, it's ESSENTIAL. Saying your affirmations each day helps set your mind up for a positive approach to life. It's the positive thoughts we sometimes drown out because of our busy lives and being constantly bombarded with negativity. Here are a few tips when adding affirmations to your daily life:
First up, find some affirmations that resonate with you. This can be as easy as a Google search. Here are a few of mine that I say daily:
Next, try to avoid words like "can't, won't, don't, never, none" etc. Phrases like "I will not gain weight" or "My bank account will never be empty" can be switched to more positive sayings like "My body is healthy and fit through exercise and eating right" and "I allow money to come to me, wherever it wants to come from." Do you hear and feel the difference?
Finally, be specific and keep practicing! Saying your daily affirmations once or twice is great, but saying them every day for a MONTH is definitely a game changer. Taking some time in the morning to create your mindset is the perfect time to incorporate your affirmations. You deserve to hear these wonderful things as you start your day!
I'll post some more photos next time of the amazing journey that happened, but I wanted to give everyone a heads up on the new, chemical-free items that were just rolled out at Young Living convention earlier in June! Check out all the new items, be in awe, drool a little, and then click here to start getting your very own!
Do you LOVE to speak in front of a crowd?
When I was in high school, I graduated with nine people in my class. For reals. Three gals, six guys. Three of us were chosen to speak at our graduation and I was one of them. Determined to be part of a memorable send-off, I practiced and wrote draft after draft with my English teacher. When the big day came, I was ready! I hopped on stage with my notes and prepared to wow everyone with my lyrical prose.
What I didn’t realize at the time was that during every other sentence, I would raise my hand dramatically and then let it drop (loudly) onto the podium, where it would then reverberate into the microphone and kill it for a second or two. Of course I was nervous and had no idea this was going on, and was perplexed by the light applause I received. Didn’t I knock it out of the park? Did they not just hear this amazingly emotional speech? Well, they heard PART of it . . .
This experience haunted me for years afterward. I was so confident and so sure that I was doing a great job in front of the gym full of people! And if I didn’t see it then, I was scared I would never see it when I spoke in public again.
However, there came a time when I did need to speak in front of people again: college, office jobs, and now especially in the field that I’m in: leading classes, coaching, speaking to groups, etc. The emotion of fear becomes really annoying after a while.
There is an essential oil called Spearmint that inspires clarity of thought and verbal expression. Translate that inner clarity into words for all to hear! Spearmint can promote confidence when you want to express yourself verbally, especially in front of groups of people. It infuses you with confidence and encourages you to take a stand on what you value.
So the next time you feel inarticulate or stumble over your words, simply grab a bottle of Spearmint and breathe it in. Tell yourself that you are strong, confident, and full of inner light, and watch your stumbling and scattered words become a flow of graceful speech.
I go to church pretty much every Sunday, ever since I was a kid. Even when I was in college, if I didn't go, I felt . . . weird. Kind of empty, like something was missing. I know organized religions go through a lot of persecution and for that, I'm sad. People miss having faith in their life because they're too busy questioning, judging, and doubting. Or maybe they WERE religious but fell away due to personal reasons and changes in their life. Everyone's story is their own.
If you ARE spiritual in nature, you more than likely have reverence and respect for Deity (God, the Universe, Angels, Buddha, every religion has a higher power(s) of some kind). At the very least, you know there are unexplainable things that happen like miracles and amazing coincidences. Maybe you talk with God? Talking with God takes reverence and respect, and in return calms your mind and heart for prayerful interaction.
Sandalwood teaches of spiritual devotion and spiritual sacrifice. Sometimes you need to dump all your material attachments on the "altar of sacrifice" so you can progress more spiritually. Sandalwood invites you to see where your hearts are and challenges you to reorder your priorities to be in alignment with the Divine will. Again, all good things!
Sandalwood oil can help you quiet the mind, raise the vibration of your mind, and feel ready to leave behind things like wealth, need for acceptance, and material attachments. It's a scary journey. Are you ready?
Emotions addressed: Disconnected from God or spiritual Self, emptiness, over-thinking, materialism
Companion oils: Oregano, Spikenard
In my last post, I talked about my daughter having a hard time with change. It saddens her so much when we change our yard (we put on a deck and pulled out some 20 year old shrubs). Or when we get rid of things she has memories tied to (we’re thinking about selling our really awesome swingset). I remember once throwing away a gum wrapper when she was three or four. She cried because wanted to keep it – apparently it was the best gum she’d ever had. Some people might see it as a kind of weakness. I see it as compassion, empathy, genuine sensitivity, and goodness.
Then it dawned on me, I need to help her transition these tough times! Sometimes talking isn’t enough, we need to use all the resources we have in our arsenal. And I know just the scent to help her: Rosemary.
Rosemary aids in times of transition and change. It helps us realize that there are higher powers at work in our life, even if we can’t see them. It can offer mental clarity, support feelings of confidence, and gives us perspective in tough situations. This includes learning disabilities and expanding the mind when we’re learning new things.
You can diffuse this scent as an essential oil. You can cook with it. You can put a sprig of it in your car. I’ll sometimes put this on the back of my neck, it’s softer and gentler than peppermint essential oil.
So whatever the case: confusion, transitioning issues, being “stuck” . . . know that your emotions are valid and that the olfactory portion of your brain will use the scent of Rosemary to assist you in your journey
Did you know the smell of oranges and more specifically the concentrated Orange Oil inspires abundance, restores energy, and aids in change? When life is feeling "heavy" I will diffuse it. Right now we're building a deck and my daughter (who's 14) does NOT like change. She doesn't want our house to change and she doesn't want to get rid of the swing set because of all the memories we have associated with it. She can be an old soul sometimes. So we're diffusing Orange oil to help her accept what's going on and be happy and carefree in nature about it. Yes, I'm sabotaging her once again with our oils . . . she is aware. ;-)
Orange oil can help you remember your inner child and bring fun and playfulness into your life! (Sometimes adulting is hard.) Try putting Orange oil behind your ears or rub a drop through your hair so the scent stays with you throughout the day. All the citrus oils are photosensitive, so if you're going to the beach, put Orange oil on when you get home.
Orange is a very "giving" and creative scent too!
So if you're feeling scared, nervous, inflexible, like a hoarder or a workaholic who has no humor and wants to punch the boss, try smelling Orange oil. Let go as a child does and live your authentic self! When we're authentic, we're abundant. Share, play, relax!
Emotions addressed: scarcity, over-serious, rigid, dull, workaholism, low energy, discouraged, hording, envy
Companion oils: Tangerine, Lemon
Honor. It’s such a strong and noble word. It’s used in the 10 Commandments. Authors use it to describe their characters. Winston Churchill talks about it. Soldiers embody it. It means high respect, esteem. The meaning of honor is in several of my daily affirmations because it evokes a feeling of solidity as I start my day.
So what happens when people don’t have honor, especially honor for their body? Maybe you know someone: caught up in patterns of mistreatment to their own physical self. Perhaps they’re obsessed with dieting or they’re never happy with how they look. Maybe that person is you! If there are buried emotions within the psyche that aren’t addressed, many times they can sneak out and be directed at the physical body like an angry tiger...
Grapefruit essential oil not only smells amazing but it helps encourage a positive relationship with your physical body through love, tolerance, and acceptance. Some people think “Oh, I’ll just use Grapefruit oil all the time so I can lose weight!” That’s not its purpose. It encourages integrity by respecting your physical needs and helps you listen to yourself! Your body does a LOT of work and needs all the support it can get!
Grapefruit teaches that no amount of food can fill a hole in your heart, only love and forgiveness can do that. As you learn the take ownership of your feelings and get help addressing them, the emotions don’t have to hide behind eating disorders, food, or anxiety over appearances. Grapefruit oil is the first step in overcoming!
Emotions addressed: hate for the body, addiction to food or dieting, eating disorders, anxiety of over appearance
Companion oils: Patchouli, Pine, Fennel
Feeling tense or emotionally stuck? Are you a perfectionist? Do you worry?
Let’s get some motion and flow going in your life!
Cypress essential oil is many things . . . including the “flexibility creator”.
You can’t let go of the past until you’re ready to give up fear. That takes flexibility and it can be scary! Cypress helps get your feelings and stagnant energies moving along - so you can RELEASE the fear.
Don’t try to force things in your life – try letting them unfold naturally! Cypress supports you as you set aside your worries, let go of needing to control, and allows you to find out how amazing life can be if you just let it happen. Have trust in the flow of life and the fact that you’re not alone. Angels, God, spirit guides, whatever the case may be, they will help you get into the groove of your life if you release control and accept what’s in front of you.
Gifts are always at hand if you take the time to look. You can do it!
Emotions addressed: controlling, fear, perfectionism, rigidity, stuck, tense
Try applying this oil to your feet, keeping you grounded in the moment. Also terrific to diffuse in a good quality diffuser!
If you've ever felt despair, judged yourself harshly, or suffered from low self-esteem, we should chat. It's a rare day when someone can say they're NEVER experienced those emotions. The problem comes when you feel those emotions all the live long day, or at least often enough that it affects your ability to function like a normal human.
There is an essential oil called Bergamot (pronounced "berg-ah-mow" like mow your lawn) that helps with self-acceptance and self-love. To be clear, the oil itself doesn't give you those things. However, it triggers you to take an honest look at yourself and helps provide the right environment for you to get healing. In a way, it prepares the emotional soil for weeding. Sometimes the roots (low self-esteem, judgement, etc.) have taken hold DEEP within us. It may take a bit more effort, but oils like Bergamot can help us overcome tough spots by encouraging us see life with a bit more optimism.
Bergamot has a cleansing effect on old feelings and limiting beliefs. One of my limiting beliefs is Catholic guilt - missing church or swearing or not going to confession, it made me feel like less of a person because I had such a narrow vision of how I could be accepted. But NOW, I know God is all-loving, no matter what. I still strive to be a good Catholic but if I mess up, I ask for forgiveness, throw on some Bergamot, and go about my day, confident that I have unconditional love from God, angels, my spirit guides, the universe, etc.
By cleansing these old beliefs or feelings, energy starts to move through your systems which can bring you hope. It can awaken your soul and offer courage to share what your inner self is really like! This is a valuable step in self-acceptance. Bergamot teaches individuals to let go of self-judgement by learning to love themselves unconditionally.
So don't worry if you have days where you feel hopeless - we all do. Just know that you're not alone and that there are ways to help you through those times. Chin up, virtual hugs all around!
Now write down five things that you LOVE about yourself and comment below!
In this edition of Sky Notes, we're going to talk about the Heart Chakra and the Throat Chakra - these are both SO important in your overall health. Why? Because one contains love and the other helps you speak your mind!
The Heart Chakra
Look at those beautiful hues of green! You'd think maybe pink or red, but the Heart Chakra's signature color is a beautiful emerald green. What kind of emotions do these pictures evoke for you?
The Heart Chakra is the fourth chakra, located right over your heart, in the center of your chest. Some say this is where the two worlds meet: heaven and earth - it’s in the middle of the chakra line, and with the upper chakras being more connected to the spiritual and the lower chakras being more connected to the physical, and the Heart Chakra brings them all together! The Heart Chakra deals with love, friendship, kindness, forgiveness, devotion, and generosity.
This chakra is typically formed between the ages of 28-35. It associates with the shape of a crescent moon, the element of air, and oversees your thymus gland, lungs, hands, heart, blood, immune and endocrine systems. So if you struggle with any kind of disease associated with these body systems, look deeply into whether you need to forgive, love more, or be more generous.
If you're looking for an essential oil to diffuse or massage over your chest, try these wonderful scents: Rose, bergamot, lavender, oregano, spikenard, and Joy - these are perfect accents to strengthening your Heart Chakra. All of these scents promote love, compassion, hope and an ability to experience deeper, more honest and meaningful relationships. Other options are Lemon and Neroli, which encourage trust and a sense of security to dispel fear, allow love in and promote hope and joyful love.
Heart Chakra Affirmation:
I love to be loved. I am love. Love is at the center of my life. Love heals me and makes me new. Love is all that truly matters in life. Love connects me to the infinite and makes me whole. Love restores my faith in life.
So ask yourself . . . questions for reflection . . .
Do you feel love for yourself? How much peace do you create in your life? Do you believe that we are all connected? How do you experience oneness? Where do you find joy in your life?
The Throat Chakra
I don't know about you, but the color blue makes me feel so peaceful! So when you resonate with turquoise or sky blue, you are resonating with your Throat Chakra! This chakra is the fifth one, located – can you guess? Right in your throat/neck area, and also in the mouth, teeth, and jaw. It deals with governing our expression of thoughts and feelings, finding our own truth and relearning the ability to express ourselves.
This chakra is the center of communication, sounds, and expression of creativity via though, speech and writing. It's typically formed between the ages of 35-42 and is associated with the element of sound, or ethers (in which all things are contained). It can affect your thyroid, lungs, vocal chords, shoulders, neck, arms, and hands. It’s amazing how much this one chakra can spread out through your entire body!
Several scents and essential oils will support this chakra. Try spearmint, spruce, Believe and Valor! You could apply these to the back of your neck, throat, and the base of your skull. Start slowly at first and dilute if needed. You may find this opens up your Throat Chakra a lot and things start pouring out that you’ve been holding in for a long time. So . . . beware! :-) Spearmint and spruce can help open emotional blockages. Valor and Believe can help you have the strength to speak your mind, or be content in what you know internally so you don’t have to voice it out loud.
If you feel blocked with suppressed feelings, unexpressed ideas, or unspoken emotions, you may have to deal more strongly with your Throat Chakra. To help open it, try to express yourself creatively, show willpower, tell the truth, communicate as clearly as you can, and stand up for your own personal integrity. That last one is hard, especially for people who tend to want to always smooth things over.
This chakra is deeply affected by substance abuse, gossip, lying, and lack of integrity. These things can cause issues of communication, expression, creativity, speech, and listening.
There’s always a balance, a yin and yang. People with a yin type of throat chakra dysfunction can lock their feelings, thoughts and opinions up inside. People who have the yang type of throat chakra imbalance tend to have more outward expression. They can be talkers, conversation interrupters and poor listeners.
Throat Chakra Affirmation:
I speak my truth and honor my commitment to it. I express myself as honestly as I can. I share my feelings with ease and comfort. I live from my integrity. I communicate what is so for me without projecting my truth onto others. I express myself as creatively as possible. I listen to my inner truth.
For reflection, ask yourself these questions:
Do you share your truth with others? Do you do what you say you are going to do? Do you feel that telling the truth may be offensive to others? Where do you channel your creativity? How strong is your will?
Did you know chakras can create a lot of harmony or chaos in your life, depending on how you take care of them?
So let's start from the bottom and work our way up!
Are you patient? Are you all over the place with your thoughts? Or pulled in a million directions? The Root Chakra can affect all of these things! This lowest chakra you kind of "sit" on and it likes to be worked with first so it can provide you with a good base. Do you like red? Because that represents the Root!
The Root Chakra is the basic essence of who you are and what you stand for. It’s your survival center. It’s instincts, primal urges, going back to when people lived in caves. If you feel weak (physically or lack integrity), or you are afraid of things, you may want to work on this chakra. One at a time is all you need to focus on.
This chakra is formed between the ages of birth and 7 years old. It’s the basis of your being!
If you're looking for essential oils to support your Root Chakra, try these! Carrot seed (what’s more connected to the Earth than carrots?), cedarwood (calms anger and tension, and has purifying properties), frankincense (increases spiritual awareness and meditation), ginger (the aroma may help influence physical energy, sex, love, money, and courage), Harmony (can bring balance to all chakras), Vetiver (grounding, calming and stabilizing), and Valor (courage!) You can apply these to your feet or lower back for the best chakra benefit.
If you have a lot of unexpressed aggression in your life, your Root Chakra can be affected by lashing out with anger or violence. It calls to our primitive instincts, and our emotions are right in the center of that. But you can release that anger and aggression. Yoga is a great way to strengthen this chakra, and so is meditation and essential oils.
Root Chakra Affirmation:
I trust in the goodness of life to carry me through. I belong wherever I am. I choose life. I affirm my right to the life I know I want. I cultivate constancy, stability, and a wholesome structure to support me through life’s changes. I accept myself as I am. I am grateful for the experiences of my life.
Next up . . . Sacral Chakra
Do you relax when your body is yelling at your to take it easy? Can you see joy in little things? Do you appreciate what you have? The Sacral Chakra can affect all of these things! This 2nd chakra is located inside your pelvis and is represented by the color orange. It promotes our ability to enjoy life in physical ways and develops our sense of abundance.
The Sacral Chakra is where you learn to give and receive pleasure, not just sexually. So many of us have a hard time accepting that we deserve pleasure of all kinds. It helps us to move forward in life, gives us something to look forward to. Many of us are also influenced by our ideas regarding pleasure and our sense of sexuality. Wholesome attitudes about sexuality offer us joy and a deep connection with another. This can be in the form of a friend, an intimate partner, or anyone we want a deeper connection with. If we feel we are deserving of the good things around us, this chakra opens to receive pleasure and abundance.
This chakra is typically formed between the ages of 7-14, so it’s still fairly young.
If you're looking for an essential oil to strengthen and help balance your Sacral Chakra, try these ideas: Jasmine, Neroli, Orange, Cinnamon Bark, Cypress, Geranium, Pine, Rose, Tangerine, Ylang Ylang, Acceptance, Peace and Calming, and Harmony. All of these as you can see are grounding (because it’s a lower chakra) and sensual (because it’s a feeling chakra). Simply breathing these scents in will help, especially during meditation, but applying them below your belly button in a clockwise motion is also beneficial. Feel free to dilute if you want a gentler approach to opening your Sacral Chakra.
If you worry or stress about issues concerning your body, such as your weight, your health, or your overall appearance, your Sacral Chakra might be clogged up or underactive.
If this chakra is overactive, you will have an obsession with your body, including cravings and addictions to drugs, alcohol, food, and/or sex. Again, extremes in either direction are unhealthy. Balance is the key!
Sacral Chakra Affirmation:
I allow pleasure and goodness into my life. I know that I deserve goodness and joy. I accept that good health is my natural state. I allow abundance into my experience. I open myself to simple, healing pleasures. I cultivate health, wholeness, and ease. I deserve to feel peace in my life.
Finally . . . Solar Plexus Chakra
How strongly do you value yourself? What are you most proud of in your life? Are you willing to express yourself when you feel wronged? All great questions to ask when thinking about your Solar Plexus Chakra!
The Solar Plexus Chakra is the third chakra, located over the stomach and under the diaphragm, kind of above your belly button a few inches. It is connected with the element of fire, so this one chakra will fire you up in many ways! It in your center of personal power, ambition, intellect, astral force, desire, and all emotions based on intellect and touch.
This chakra is typically formed between the ages of 14-21, which makes sense as this is the age we’re trying to find our place in the world for the first time, find our self-value and our personal identity. The Solar Plexus Chakra deals with self-esteem, confidence, and freedom of choice. It governs our emotional issues (teenage angst anyone?), personal power, self-respect, courage, humility, and learning by the power of grace. These are difficult things to learn at any age, but they’re especially important in the 14-21 year age range.
There are lots of essential oils that can support this chakra! Lemon, grapefruit, juniper, ginger, lemongrass, peppermint, rosemary, pepper, En-R-Gee, and Harmony. You can drop an oil onto your Solar Plexus area and massage it in a clockwise motion. Dilute if you need. You can breathe in an oil, or even diffuse it. Some of these oils will seem to open you up too much, which could be tough if your Solar Plexus if very closed. It might seem overwhelming for a bit. If so, just take it slowly and start by breathing in an oil, then move onto diffusing, then finally to massaging in your chakra area.
If your Solar Plexus is in balance, you will have self-esteem, respect for others, calmness. You will feel friendly and confident, ready to be social with the world. Leaders, explorers and charismatic people typically have a balanced Solar Plexus Chakra.
If unbalanced, your Solar Plexus will invite concerns about what others think of you. It can show up as lack of energy, depression, and confusion about small things in your life.
Solar Plexus Affirmation:
I know that who I am is love, intelligence, and goodness. I am worthy of a good life. I am confident that life will support me through all its changes. I use my power wisely. I choose life, love, and goodness. I am in touch with the source of my power. I am a radiant and whole being, able to find my path in life.
I hope that helps clear up some confusion about the lower three chakras of your amazing body - if you still have issues or need to work through chakra healing, please let me know!
This month I wanted to talk more about chakras. Some people automatically shy away from that word and its "connotations": it's too new-agey or weird! (Did you just do that? Ha ha!) If so, that's okay, and I encourage you to read on. It's not so scary!
Let's break down the basics:
*The word "chakra" is ancient Sanskrit and means “wheel of light”.
*We as humans have 7 major chakras (see picture above).
*Each chakra is linked to an element, a color, a musical tone, an oil, an angel, an animal, a specific crystal, plants, and more!
*It acts as a kind of filtration system – purifying energy from the heavens and on earth. The chakra is where the two worlds combine.
*By learning about chakras, we can begin to heal all our body systems.
*A congested chakra might mean coldness and lack of energy, out of sorts, or constipated.
*Too much energy in the chakra might come up as heat, irritability.
*When working with your chakras, it’s best to work from the bottom up. Then you will feel secure and in place to work with the others that are higher up.
See? It's not so bad! Energy is all around us, but it's also IN us - God given energy that helps us achieve our goals, allows us to help others, create, and heal!
Everyone/thing has a subtle energy. It’s the force field around all living things. This energy controls our physical well-being, emotional stability, and mental clarity and acts as a mirror about how we feel about ourselves and life in general. The more positive yours thoughts, the stronger your subtle energy is, or your energy field. When our chakras or energy is weak, we are prone to attacks both physical and mental, but we can easily strengthen them by meditation, prayer, and positive thinking.
You can also choose to "anoint" your chakras with essential oils like with Young Living! When using an oil to anoint a chakra, use only one oil per session. Check out www.the-energy-healing-site.com for some good ideas on how to anoint yourself, your energy, and your chakras.
Personal note: I understand that chakras, energy, and spirituality aren't for everyone. I also believe that knowledge and education are powerful! So even if you don't want to anoint your chakras, clear your energy, or strengthen your energetic field, please know that learning about them could help you overcome major hurdles in your life, along with prayer and meditation. If you need more insight or assistance with this, I'm happy to help! Click here to schedule a consultation:
How did you take care of yourself this weekend?
It's a loaded question because if you're like most people, you probably DIDN'T. At least not in a way that made you feel better!
Don't feel bad! This is a hard concept for people to grasp: Take time for me? Do something nice for myself? It seems so . . . SELFISH.
Take this example: last weekend, my husband wanted to go ice fishing. So he did. I mean, we talked about it first and he made sure I didn't have anything going on and that the kids were set, but he did it! And I was so proud of him! Unlike me, who needs to plan out every moment of my self-care, he just knew what would make him feel better after a long week and he did it.
Another example: Me. I've been wanting to take a Super Self Care day for a month now. But what do it do? Will it be expensive? What will the kids think? I'll probably just rush home. What if there are tons of people where I want to go? Etc. Etc. Etc. I am a classic overthinker. It's my lot in life. I don't beat myself up about it anymore, it's part of who I am! Half the fun is learning to live with parts of myself that have held me back in the past.
So you know what I'm going to do? This Saturday I'm going to get up, grab $25, go to the local coffee shop, order a Dark Chocolate Chai and a breakfast sandwich, and eat and drink and be merry. Then I'm going to walk around the local bookstore because I love it. Then I'm going to walk around the mall. If I see a pretty necklace at Claire's, I'll probably buy it, but if I don't then I'll just window shop. I'll visit my favorite stone/crystal shop because it's peaceful. Maybe I'll go home and take a nap if my family is out doing their own thing.
The bottom line is that doing all of these things for myself will make me feel GOOD. And when I feel good, I can share it with others and make them feel good. If I feel like crap, guess what gets shared? Yep: crap. So taking time for self-care may feel selfish, but I assure you, it's not. It's part of being a healthy human being, especially if you're the type who gives of him/herself often.
What do you do for self care?
It's a new year! At the beginning of a new year, SO many people make resolutions. One of mine this year is to have more confidence. But what good is a resolution without a plan? Otherwise you're doomed to fail!
Let's say I want to have more confidence. I need an ACTION plan, hardset goals like: "I will speak my mind, even if it's scary" or "I will try something new even though I'm comfortable where I'm at". Having an accountability buddy is also helpful!
Let's talk about health and wellness for a sec - check out the above slides. They are all an easy way to get your whole body back on track: sleep, nutrition, de-stress. All available to you whenever you want it, just connect with me below!
You CAN do it and you ARE worthy.
What are you most excited about for the new year?
I remember when I wasn't grateful. Well, that's actually been a majority of my life up until a few years ago. I was a sucker for a good vent/whine/complain-fest - who doesn't love a good sob story? Let me tell you, it is HARD to break that habit. I think I could liken it to an addiction. It's SO easy to get sucked into the self-pity, the complaining, the "woe-is-me" state of mind. It's just so easy to stay there. It's safe to stay there it feels like!
But you CAN be grateful if you have the will. And maybe a few friends who share this trait also help. But it's amazing how quickly you can turn it around and it's also amazing how many people start to enter your life once you make room for them and accept them with gratefulness. Journaling? Attending a good church? Cutting people out of your life that encourage you to complain about what you don't have? It's doable!
For me, my job was a good way to get sucked into the negative drama, no matter what job I was at. It was like I was attracted to it and I couldn't resist a good whine. Now that I'm working for myself, I've found it's much easier to stay on task, to focus on the good, and to be grateful for all the gifts I've been given. It's not pride. It's true acceptance and gratutide.
So how do you find this elusive gratitude attitude? For starters, you can join our 31 Days of Gratitude in the month of January. Each day, you'll receive an email with a task, a thought provoking question, or a saying that will hopefully generate some positivity in your day. Another idea is a gratitude journal that you start each day with, listing 10 things you're grateful for and 3 people you can to "release" from your anger stash. A good essential oil for this is Joy oil over your heart.
I hope you can find true joy and gratefulness at the life you've been given. Even if you THINK you have a terrible life, there is always good. Like attracts like, so find the good, focus on it and watch it grow from there. Blessings!
I've blogged about the Oola oils before but they're worth mentioning again. This evening at our church, I added a drop of Oola Faith to the top of my head and mass felt really great tonight. The readings resonated with me, the songs sounded amazing, and the sun was coming through the window at just the right angle. It made it MORE.
Another one that comes up on my Zyto scan a lot is Oola Fun. I forget to have fun, I'm so serious all the time! And my daughter just had it come up on hers as well. We're very alike, organized, serious, easily offended LOL - we're working on it! We realize that having fun is an important part of life and we're trying to "let our hair down" more often. Oola Fun helps us do that, or at least it helps us remember that it's important.
In fact, the first five people who email me their address, I'll send them a roller bottle of Oola Fun to try!
So don't forget to have some fun!
It happens every time I go out in public: I am silently giving oils advice to strangers on the off chance they'll have moment to listen to me. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't, but at least I'm trying!
In the grocery store I see a woman who looks sad and down and barely looks up from pushing her cart. I want to give her some Joy oil. In Barnes and Noble, I see a guy struggling with seasonal discomfort. I'd offer him some Lavender oil. At the coffee shop, I see a college student adding sweetener and creamer to the coffee. I'd give them some Peppermint Vitality to try. If any of these people make eye contact with me, I'll attempt to strike up a conversation with them. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But I still continue to try.
Sooooo many ways to use oils in daily life! In fact, I can think of 8 times YL made an appearance in my day so far: Slique tea in the morning, Joy oil over my heart, supplements throughout the day (Multigreens, Essentialzymes, Sulfurzyme, Allerzyme, Super B), Thieves cough drop, Lemon oil in the diffuser, Rosemary and Lavender misted over my kids to stop critters from coming into their hair, Ningxia Red in my water, and Balance Complete smoothie. I still have a few hours to go before bed, so I imagine there will be Thieves oil on my feet, Sensation lotion on my hands (smells SO good), Thieves toothpaste, ART cleanser, and a few more things. Just another day in our YL home!
They say when "the student is ready, the teacher will appear". Are YOU ready to be that student? Are you ready to learn how to incorporate oils and healthy supplements into your life? If your answer is yes, we should chat. It's so much easier than you'd think!
I love this saying. To me, it means "Hang in there, do what you were meant to do, and if you think your time has passed, you're wrong. There's always time!" Okay, so his way is shorter, but mine makes sense to me. ;-)
This past weekend I attended a leadership retreat, basically in the middle of nowhere. Out of the 16 of us there, I knew one person: my sponsor and friend, Jennifer. Did I have doubts about going? Um yes. But I did it anyway and I'm SO glad I did.
We had a bon fire, practiced raindrops, received Gratitude Journals, talked about the best ways to lead our team, how to keep our confidence up in the face of chaos, and talked about personal challenges and triumphs. Among MANY other happenings too. Overall it was amazing and hopeful to know that there are leaders out there, like me, who have doubts and "off days". Everyone was so wonderful and I enjoyed getting to know all of them.
And then the clowns. Several of us are terrified of clowns (okay I think it was all of us) and we kept thinking we saw one lurking in the woods. We also heard footsteps and saw what we thought were figures throughout the cabin during our stay. Cabin in the woods anyone? We shared our encounters of spirits or ghosts, and shared stories about local ones we'd heard. A great way to get to sleep at night is talking about the other side, let me tell you.
Overall I'm so grateful I was able to attend this weekend. I learned a lot about myself, what my strengths and weaknesses are, and was able to brainstorm with some of the best Young Living leaders out there. Our hosts were beyond accomodating, making us delicious meals and offering us ways to step outside our comfort zone in a supportive environment. Again, so grateful.
I also did a Mixlr call on our weekend and what we learned:
Finally! Along with the free promotions from YL this month, you can also earn a FREE laundry soap! I use Thieves laundry soap pretty much every day. It's not heavily perfumed, rinses clean, and gets stains out of our clothes. So if you want yours, sign up with me OR reactivate your membership! If you're currently on my team, introduce YL to 3 new members who could benefit and have them to join our awesome team - then you'll get a free Thieves laundry soap and so will they! SCORE!
Deep Relief has been a favorite oil of mine while traveling. See how cute and little it is? It's a roller bottle which means all I have to do is roll it on a spot that's bothering me and I'll have instant relief!
This past weekend I stayed at a hotel and while it was a "fancy" hotel, the beds were still a lot harder than I anticipated. My neck and upper back where extremely stiff by the first morning, and so I grabbed my Deep Relief and applied wherever I could reach. It helped IMMENSELY and I was able to go about my day.
I also use it when I'm flying on a plane, getting bogged down with my day, or just need a general pick-me-up. The scent alone helps keep me alert! It contains Peppermint oil, Lemon oil, Balsam Fir oil, Clove oil, Copaiba oil, Coconut oil, Wintergreen oil, Helichrysum oil, Vetiver oil, and Dorado Azul oil. So much goodness packed into such a small bottle.
Deep Relief is actually a FREE oil this month. Ask me how you can get it for free!
I am a happily married Mom of two. I love my family and my "job" as a intuitive wellness coach and Young Living leader!